There are common misconceptions about mentoring, and a lot of them stem from not knowing how to find the right one. Mentors have a huge impact on our lives and influence a lot of our decisions. Don’t get stuck with a mentor that is not able to give you the full attention and help you deserve.
Here are 10 steps to finding the right mentor:
- Find someone that is similar to you and that you want to emulate. You will be spending a lot of time with them and having the same characteristics, work ethics, and strengths will help keep the mentorship flowing smoothly.
- Get to know the person. Before choosing them as your mentor, take extra precautions in trying to get to know them. Follow their blogs or projects; really understand who they are.
- Meet with them before you ask them to be your mentor. An initial meeting over coffee or bruch can go a long way before you ask them for a big commitment.
- Think about your meeting. Did the conversation flow well? Did you feel comfortable talking to them? Did you gain good insights when talking to them? If yes, you’re off to a great start.
- Follow up after your first meeting. If your meeting went well, thank them and ask to meet again. Let the relationship develop before you bring up mentoring, give it time to grow.
- Initiate the mentorship. Ask them to be your mentor and give reasons why you picked them. It will flatter them and show them why they should choose you too.
- Tell your mentor exactly what you’re looking for and need help with. Being honest and open will help you both fulfill expectations.
- If you feel that they ask too much of you, do not give up. They are challenging you and wanting you to grow, keep working towards your goal.
- Don’t be afraid to ask more from your mentor, either. There is nothing wrong with asking for an extra coffee meeting outside of your normal days. Find what’s right for you.
- Commit. Having a mentorship takes time and effort, so commit to the process no matter what. It will always being rewarding.
Now that you’re ready, go find the perfect mentor for you!